Fully agree — while yes, my day to day has changed (as have, obviously, my priorities), I fully reject the idea that we say “goodbye” to our former selves.
If anything, becoming a parent solidified who I am, I’m more convicted and more sure of myself. Maybe it exposed the “shadow” parts, who I thought I was etc, but motherhood has brought me more into myself than anything else!
So glad this resonated with you. I have so many girlfriends about to give birth and felt like I should share this experience. It is really amazing how much more assured I am too. Of course there are changes, I haven't directed anything since she's been born / (a project fell apart) and I've been her primary but overall the experience of losing myself was just not on the table for me. I wasn't interested and felt like it was shoved down my throat that I was supposed to go through this huge upheaval and lose myself to become a mother, and no thank you, I am the mother that I am because I am myself!
Fully agree — while yes, my day to day has changed (as have, obviously, my priorities), I fully reject the idea that we say “goodbye” to our former selves.
If anything, becoming a parent solidified who I am, I’m more convicted and more sure of myself. Maybe it exposed the “shadow” parts, who I thought I was etc, but motherhood has brought me more into myself than anything else!
So glad this resonated with you. I have so many girlfriends about to give birth and felt like I should share this experience. It is really amazing how much more assured I am too. Of course there are changes, I haven't directed anything since she's been born / (a project fell apart) and I've been her primary but overall the experience of losing myself was just not on the table for me. I wasn't interested and felt like it was shoved down my throat that I was supposed to go through this huge upheaval and lose myself to become a mother, and no thank you, I am the mother that I am because I am myself!